(Sheehan, n.d.) |
I love to run. It is a five a.m. gut-wrenching,
lung-stabbing, leg-murdering war with myself. Every day, my alarm clock rings
and it begins. My brain says, “Stay
and sleep a little longer.” But I get up anyway. In the first few minutes, my
legs whisper, “Just go a little slower.” But I keep pace. Halfway through, my
lungs scream, “Cut it short!” But then I see the sunrise over the trees, and
push the full distance. It is ugly and shout-y and I will never win anything
ever because I am not fast.
But when I get home, breathless and sweaty and shaking, it is
worth it. Every single step. I’ve won again against my (worser?) self.
This is leadership. And growth. And life. It is a series of
small, unromantic, difficult steps. It is listening to the small things inside
my head and choosing what to believe and how to act it out. It is, as Ann
Voskamp says, the physical and mental brokenness of running that reminds me I
am strong (Voskamp, 2016, 18 October).
The “people” parts
of leadership are just as painful (for me) as running. My strong
Introverted-Intuitive-Thinking-Judging (INTJ) personality says, “You don’t have
to care about other people. Emotions aren’t important” (16Personalities, 2017).
My rational side says, “You can skip the relationship. More work will get done
that way.” My anger says, “Just get it out. Everyone will feel better” (Thomas
& Killman, n.d.). My conflict style says, “Make sure and get your way
because you are definitely right” (Ingram & Johnson, 2010).
(Tolkien, n.d.) |
Of course this is all terrible advice. People matter.
Relationships matter (Porter-O’Grady & Malloch, 2015). And just because
these awful thoughts and feelings and beliefs come naturally does not mean that
I should trust them. Listen to them? Of course. It is critical to hear and
acknowledge yourself, but that is only the first step on the world’s longest
five a.m. slog (McHugh, 2013, 15 February). The conversation sounds something
like this, “Yes, I feel like I should push ahead but I am going to stop and
take time for relationship.” And if you are like me, it is thousands of these
internal assessments that build up to growth.
When the slog gets especially dreary, I fall back on the “why”
(Sinek, 2009, 28 September). For running, reviewing my long family history of
early death from diabetes, heart disease, and obesity pretty much does the trick.
As a nurse I am well aware that even the most perfect lifestyle does not come
with a guarantee, but this is not an excuse to make poor choices. Besides, how
else am I supposed to stay in good enough shape to “wide bikes to the
pway-gwound” with the two best little girls in the world?
My nursing and
leadership “whys” are rooted more deeply. I am a nurse because “being with” someone at
his or her most vulnerable is a powerful and humbling experience. I would happily
give up the whole list of nursing tasks, technology, and procedures for the
privilege of supporting a dying patient and their loved ones.
(Angelou, n.d.) |
Seriously….how much more meaningful and real can it get?
(Not much more).
The leadership part is tough. I am not naturally sparkly. The
emotional, feeling, “soft” side comes with much difficulty when it is a
colleague instead of patient on the other side. And so why am I a leader? Some
days I am not sure. Other days, when I have removed a barrier or taught
something new or just listened and I see the nurse connect the dots…I remember
that my leadership “why” springs from wanting others to know theirs. Unfortunately
this means I have to step outside myself and get curious (McHugh, 2013, 15
February). I have to reach out, learn about uniqueness, and change my approach
appropriately. I have to give my fellow introverts the time and space to think
and process. I must be sparkly enough to engage those pesky extroverts because
I am the leader and it is my job to seek them out (Cain, 2012, 2 March). One
team I lead is an interesting mix. In meetings I come prepared to be bright and
talkative, and make sure I spend time with the two extroverts just “chewing the
fat.” Later that day I seek out the introvert in the group, and solicit her feedback in a conversation that is filled with thoughtful silence.
This works well, and I get really incredible input from all three colleagues. It is in stark contrast to just a few months ago when I was less thoughtful
about my approach. The extroverts dominated meetings and said I did not seem
engaged because I was “too quiet”. The introvert would provide input in a
hallway conversation days after the meeting when it was too late to change
course. It was a disaster. Learning to manage this team (and myself) has been tough.
The whole growth process is not about me and sometimes deep down (or not so
deep down) I don’t like it.
To top it off, I
must do all this messy sweaty growing in public (Brown, 2010, June). For all to
see. Because the best leaders are comfortable with change and live it out loud.
How else will others learn how it’s done? I cannot expect anything from anyone
that I refuse to do myself. For example, as a quality professional much of my
work involves asking others to change their practice. Good leadership says that
therefore I must be willing to change my own practice (Porter-O’Grady &
Malloch, 2015). This means listening to ideas, changing the plan (or scrapping
it and starting over), and acknowledging that there may be a better way. And as
I said before…I have to do this ugly vulnerable work where others can see. The
perfectionist part of me HATES this. I would rather practice something a
thousand times in private than mess it up once while someone else is watching. Unfortunately,
this pursuit of perfection does not accomplish anything (Goldman, 2015, 15
January). It simply perpetuates the silent, error-shunning culture that stifles
good healthy transparency (Goldman, 2015, 15 January). It begs the question…What
if we all were open and honest about our mistakes? How much more would we know
today if we owned up to what went wrong? Would our patients be safer? The concept
of just culture (focusing on transparency and systems-level management of
errors while holding staff responsible for behavior) says yes to all three of
these questions (Porter-O’Grady & Malloch, 2015). And this culture begins
with me. The leader. Modeling it and expecting it (Porter-O’Grady &
Malloch, 2015).
The rational part of me (which is most of me) wants to stop
here. So let’s stop. Because up to this point, I’ve referenced high concepts
and used metaphors and talked about things like growth and struggle. And
it’s been good and thought-provoking and perhaps insightful. Unfortunately,
fancy high-level talk only gets a person so far. It is the actual
implementation of actual behavior that actually makes a difference.
(Lewis, n.d.) |
So how do I, the
rational (somewhat unfeeling) introvert of introverts, put over eight hundred
words of my own advice into action? First, I need to get out of my own way
(Abraham, 2015, 24 March). I must stop agonizing over the “right” answer and
instead seek out and engage colleagues in honest collaboration (Abraham, 2015,
24 March). In getting out of my own way, I must acknowledge my own fallibility
and come to terms with how failure (in public) feels (Ledgerwood, 2013, 22
June). It might never be comfortable, but it will always be critical. A few
weeks ago, I had an opportunity to practice this at work. I participated in an
event targeted at improving the hospital value analysis process. This process
involves the nitty gritty details of finding great patient care products,
getting everyone to agree that said products are great, getting the financials
and logistics all worked out, and then planning for implementation. Unfortunately
I was asked for input because I had recently made a rather large oversight
error in the “getting everyone to agree that said products are great” step. The
error was absolutely related to defects at the systems level, but I still felt
terrible. I wanted to hide. Instead, I bucked up and talked about what happened
and how it affected staff. Through this, I learned that others had made a similar
mistake, and I was able to contribute to a systems-level solution. I still felt
vulnerable and kind of terrible, but at least it was productive!
So that was step one…being vulnerable (yuck!).
The real work comes next. Engaging others is hard. I must be
curious about my colleagues and seek to know them (McHugh, 2013, 15 February).
I must learn how every colleague lands on the introvert/extrovert continuum
(Cain, 2012, 2 March). Knowing (in part) a team member’s uniqueness allows me
to frame communication and assign work in the best possible way (Semler, 2015,
15 February). This transformative leadership style honors everyone, facilitates
group ownership of the project, and levels the playing field to maximize
productivity (Porter-O’Grady & Malloch, 2015). 21st century
leadership principles suggest that motivation is primarily intrinsic,
supporting the need for relationship and trust-building in the search for
long-term success and sustainability (Porter-O’Grady & Malloch, 2015). As
Dr. Tim Porter-O’Grady said in a 2016 presentation, “You cannot have
accountability without ownership” (2016, 23 April). I am currently applying
this incredible insight to my work with pressure injury prevention. As I round
with nurses, I focus first on their perception of this critical indicator, and
ask for feedback. I try and say things like, “This is your patient, and you
know them best. What do you think about (x)?” Of course I still provide
correction if necessary, but in a more collaborative way that respects the
nurse’s expertise. It is too early to see an effect in patient outcomes, but
each conversation feels more engaged and meaningful (Gawande, 2012, 2 November).
(King, n.d.) |
A simple illustration
called The Elephant and the Rider breaks
staff engagement and change management down beautifully (4-H iGrow Video
Resources, 2014, 25 September). The first step to getting an elephant and its
rider to take a new path is to give clear directions. I use this a lot in my
work. Communication is key here, “Use this new checklist.” Hard-wired alerts in
the electronic health record are also helpful, “Are you sure you want to order
this medication?” Quality improvement teams appreciate clear direction as well,
“Our short term goals are x and x. These small steps will build to achievement
of our long term goal of y.” After experience as a nursing leader and quality
professional, this step is pretty easy. Simple messages, tools, and resources delivered
at the right time and at sufficient volume tell the rider where to go (4-H iGrow
Video Resources, 2014, 25 September). Jesus exemplifies this servant leadership
mentality. He understood what the people needed through the principle of “being
with” and came up with simple solutions. Think about it! In Matthew 22:37-39,
He condenses life into two edicts; Love your God and love your neighbor (New
International Version). Amazing stuff. It tells the rider exactly where to go.
And hence lies the sticky piece…motivating the elephant (4-H
iGrow Video Resources, 2014, 25 September). Because the rider and elephant only
go there if they want to (Porter-O’Grady
& Malloch, 2015). This is where the transformative leadership as discussed
above kicks in. And it is hard. I’ve talked a lot about how I plan to do this
(seeking to know others and individualizing my approach accordingly) so I won’t
waste time rehashing. What I will say is that the most successful projects are
deeply owned by the team (Sinek, 2009, 28 September). Everyone is invested and
cares fiercely about the work and one another. In my experience, if you can get
to this point with a team, you’ve got it made. One of the teams I lead is like
this. We can accomplish more in a thirty-minute meeting than most other groups
can in six months. We all want the project to succeed because it is ours, and so everyone comes prepared to
plan and leaves ready to do what needs to be done. I can’t take credit for it
entirely. It’s a variety of things coming together; amazing executive
leadership, the right mix of staff, and several years of sweaty effort. This
work is saving lives, and if I could bottle it I would…well I would still
probably work because nursing is the best but I’d also have a yacht or
something. It’s that good.
(Safina, 2013, 28 June) |
Once you have (magically?) convinced that elephant that it wants to move, you smooth the path (4-H iGrow
Video Resources, 2014, 25 September). This step is unglamorous and frustrating and
infuriating and satisfying all at the same time. It’s about busting assumptions,
knocking down barriers, and finding a new way to go (Porter-O’Grady &
Malloch, 2015). It is being like Jesus and doing what needs to be done so that
others can move forward. Think about Jesus for a minute. He suffered. Washed
feet. Made wine. He loved and lost and cried and taught and performed
incredible miracles. And then he died so that we could find our way to The
Father. He smoothed the path.
Of course I will never measure up to Him. But I can sure
try. I must listen closely and devote my time and the team’s time to making it
easy to do the right thing (Porter-O’Grady & Malloch, 2015). Through this,
if the way is clear and
smooth and looks pretty good, the traffic will come (4-H iGrow Video Resources,
2014, 25 September). In my work, this step is rooted in strategies like automation, keeping information to a one-sided, large print document, and minimizing steps. A great example is my organization's work on sepsis. We have a nurse-initiated process that empowers those at the bedside to assess and act. It is great. Really great. However, two years ago I was getting a lot of feedback about the many steps it took for the nurse to complete not only patient care, but also notification of other team members (provider, laboratory, patient placement, pharmacy, IV team, etc.). To smooth the path, a group of nurses and I designed and implemented an automated pager-related communication that sent an urgent message to the team when the nurse placed the process initiation order in the the electronic health record. It only saves about two minutes, but our process use rate went up. Way up. More patients with sepsis were being identified early all because of a (relatively) small improvement. The hospital really is a complex adaptive system (Porter-O'Grady & Malloch, 2015)! In more traditional, machine-like systems there is no way a two-minute reduction would have such a large effect on the whole process (Porter-O'Grady & Malloch, 2015). In general, smoothing the path works, especially when the rider helps by pointing out the bumps.
(Diamond Roads US, 2017) |
Wow. Step two of “Better Leader 2017” got wordy. So let’s
recap. Step one…get out of my own way. Step two…engage others because they matter. Step three…repeat steps one and two over. And over. And
over. Fail publicly. Grow where others can watch. Get out and run.
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